When did my daughter in law move in with US?
My daughter and son-in-law moved in with us for a while right after their first child was born. The other grandparents, who lived 200 miles away, never acted as if we were the victors in some game of tug of war. But I felt like a victor. And I felt guilty.
What should I never discuss with my mother-in-law?
Fed them dinner and drinks. Dragged her up in front of the guests and then got angry, because she wasn’t thrilled. “She said she didn’t want a party,” my friend Anne reminded me later. She told you. Yes, and I listened, but didn’t hear. We do these things. I asked my mother-in-law at least a million times to “Please call before you stop by.”
What to do if your daughter in law asks you not to do something?
If your daughter-in-law asks you not do something, as in, “Please don’t give the children chocolate before they go to bed,” “Please don’t bring the kids another toy,” “Please, please, please don’t tell them stories about monsters,” listen to her. Respect her wishes just as you wanted your mother-in-law to respect yours.
Can a mother be No.1 in her son’s life?
Sons grow up, meet girls, get married and voila, a couple is formed. And like it or not when this happens the rules change. For starters, a mother is no longer No. 1 in her son’s life. But it takes a lot of us mothers of sons a few years, maybe decades to realize this. Mothers are the go-to person for their sons’ first 20, 30, sometimes 40 years.
My daughter and son-in-law moved in with us for a while right after their first child was born. The other grandparents, who lived 200 miles away, never acted as if we were the victors in some game of tug of war. But I felt like a victor. And I felt guilty.
How to deal with your daughter in law?
Talk to your son or daughter. Careful, though. Don’t just unload a litany of your daughter-in-law’s hateful traits. Instead, try to take an approach that is diplomatic and not critical. State the problem, and then request your preferred solution:
Sons grow up, meet girls, get married and voila, a couple is formed. And like it or not when this happens the rules change. For starters, a mother is no longer No. 1 in her son’s life. But it takes a lot of us mothers of sons a few years, maybe decades to realize this. Mothers are the go-to person for their sons’ first 20, 30, sometimes 40 years.
Fed them dinner and drinks. Dragged her up in front of the guests and then got angry, because she wasn’t thrilled. “She said she didn’t want a party,” my friend Anne reminded me later. She told you. Yes, and I listened, but didn’t hear. We do these things. I asked my mother-in-law at least a million times to “Please call before you stop by.”
